Good Morning, y'all --- I hear in all of your posts the same thing I feel. That wish, that regret, that sense of what if. I think if any of my friends begin to talk more seriously about making moves, I will try to tell them how much I wish things had been different. At least then, maybe they'll reflect a bit. Heck, with the way I approached things after H left, I could give them a small dissertation's worth of books to read that could help!
The comment about working on my own marriage and maybe not doing what we are doing now comes from the degree of work I'm doing, and that we had tried MC about 11 years ago. We thought that had helped, and probably it did for a while. What I wonder now is if we had gone to MC before he had left, would I have taken the amount of soul searching I needed to do as seriously - and would he? I know I can never walk backwards, and it really would depend on who we would have found for a counselor, but sometimes I wonder. I know that H is doing a lot of his own ACOA issue work - and all of that, too, I don't know how much MC could have held off. His MLC came in the form of all of those demons raising their heads; if only those demons had suggested that his fight might have been stronger with me instead of without me!
But, today's a good day, and I thank you all for being here to talk to as the questions roll in and life rolls on.
