Shiny,
Ok I read your very interesting saga and I have to say that I can relate so much to your H coming up with the stuff that's wrong with you that may or may not be true but definitely blown out of porportion? Shocker: this aries girl is also high stress tolerance, a bit of a perfectionist, and very opinionated. Maybe we can use some improvement there but why wasnt this an issue 2 years ago when you wanted to go to MC?????????? My H always talked about how the last 7 years were not good- sex issues, I hated his gifts , I didnt care about his job , I made fun of him and on and on and on...I think you and I have room for improvement but the enormous spin they put on it is just not accurate. My H accused me of not going to watch his triathelons- he told me not too!! let the kids sleep in he said. Anyway, this is your thread so I got very defensive and tried to prove he was wrong- this got me further in the hole. I think you are doing a great job. I think your H has esteem issues and the job cut cannot help. Have you read 5 love languages? My H likes to be appreciated. And physical affection is number one. I wonder what yours is? Sounds like he is a gift giver and needs appreciation. Not sure. Dont know what to ask for the D I mean B-day? Ideas? Trip to Vegas? Let me know your decision!
going to bed,
Shay