OF - I logged on just to see if there was an update from you ... and Shazam!, there it is. (Anyone else remember Shazam! from the early 70's?) For those who don't, here's the plot. Billy Batson was privileged by receiving the combined powers of the Six Wise Immortals: Solomon, Hercules, Agamenon, Zeus, Achilles and Mercury. Thus S-H-A-Z-A-M. I think of Shazam! when I think of OF.
This is a longshot, OF - but have you considered just talking it out with your W directly? Bypass the liars, I mean lawyers. You guys aren't that far off in the negotiation and some direct interaction between the two of you may benefit YOU. Of course, my hope is that you would hug-it-out. But at the least, maybe it will allow her to understand that you are sincere in your beliefs and not aiming to harm her. And from there, who knows. Just thinking of a 180 you might be able to do here. Throw out a line and see if you can catch anything. If not, then let the court handle it.
Praying the wisdom of Solomon on you - and thinking of you often.
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs