I agree with what you are saying; I too try to just listen, and I don't plan to lecture about the difficulty of marriage - sometimes I wonder if I didn't work hard enough on my own. But it is that feeling of wanting to say "You don't want to feel what I'm feeling; you don't want to have someone you have loved feel what I'm feeling" that I wonder about relaying. I am doing well today, but it has been hell getting here and when I hear my friends talking like this, I cry inside. How much I wish I could have done something before! How much I wish the couple people I know that my h confided in just before walking out - how much I wish they had said something that might have prompted him to try one more time to break through!
Still, it helps to hear what you are saying. I think that probably it is best to just listen. I just worry - no, wonder - if I'm being the best friend I can be by not trying to have them hear me. Of course, they have watched me through this year, and I guess if that hasn't convinced them that this journey is hell, nothing will....
