I have confided in one friend about my situation. She then confided in me that she and her were having problems. They apparently went to counseling a couple of years ago but it didn't help.
She is very unhappy in her marriage and the thing that I hear the most is the selfish nature of her H.
I mostly listen and be supportive to her. That is what she has done for me and I greatly appreciate it.
However, I did tell her once, through tears, that I hoped that she never ended up where I was. I told her that she should do everything she could to fix her marriage, because I was in h*ll and I wouldn't wish what I was going through on my worst enemy, let alone a close friend.
In her situation, I get the impression that she would be the one to walk away, and that is so difficult for me to understand.
But, for the most part, I just listen and support. I don't lecture that marriage is hard work, I don't lecture that she is part of the problem...I just listen. I really think that it is all that I can do....
