Calling All Cats :)

[peaceful_spirit]

Cat,
Right back at ya! You give me awesome support, too!

I see a lot of my H in yours, or vice versa. My H also hates confrontation. He's getting better at it, but in general, he'd much rather keep things to himself than start any kind of "discussion".

Try to remember that your H is trying. He's doing the best that he can. Is his best good enough for you? Right now, no. But the idea is that he'll work through this and be able to give you more. As badly as you feel right now, I would bet he feels worse. He can only give what he can give right now. The trick is for you to figure out how to deal with him and how to stay sane and healthy while he's sorting himself out. It's hard, I know.

Maybe you can make a list of topics you'd like to discuss in the next MC session. I would ask your MC how you can break down this wall that tends to go up between the two of you. Ask for recommendations on effective communication approaches, given both yours and his personalities.