Seriously though, You're sounding a lot better. I'm very glad.
Keep up the good work. The ride does level off a bit. Jack3beans said to me,
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The rollercoaster different things to different people.
My take - You hope, or get your expectations up...thats the slow ride to the top...those hopes or expectations get dashed...thats the fast vomit inducing, my stomach is somewhere in low orbit descent into the pit of hell.
Zero your expectations and it is more like a bumpy ass country road in Hazzard county. : )
He's right.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
I ascribe the paper towels and TP possibly to his painting but also possibly to OW's bulimic bouts? or unattractive problems of some kind!! Don't know.
Anyway, when I dropped off D the other day, I think I saw OW looking from behind a curtain. Whatever. As I said, I pity OW because only women w/very low self esteem will settle for that.
I am working to potty training D2 now and she is doing well. I got her to sit on the potty and she will open and close it. I know this is a subject that parents of little ones can appreciate. But goodness, my baby is not a baby any more. H has missed 7 months. even though he does care for her 2 days it is not the same to not have her around more.
I am feeling very competent and capable now w/D. We have a little routine and we do OK. And now she is at an age where it is not that difficult for me to take her places. I can go without the ton of requisite gear.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
And now she is at an age where it is not that difficult for me to take her places. I can go without the ton of requisite gear.
That is SO nice. I am a contingency freak, so I know exactly what you mean.
How awesome to go someplace, even the store, without a baggage train!
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Well, H came late and I was making food. I had resolved not to offer him anything, so I simply didn't. He made a big hint so I did offer him supper and he ate with us.
But it was, on my part, very much a "Oh, did you want some too?"
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Breton - I do miss that age...not the potty training, but the age. I have really loved watching mine grow up. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have...
Not to harp on this subject, but I guess what I meant by the toilet paper and towels was why is he asking you? Can't he get his own toilet paper and towels? Or can't she?
Might give her something to do other than peeking through curtains!
W8, He asked if I could spare a couple of rolls and I said yeah. Made some excuse that D2 had made a mess with it. But she doesn't play with it here so I think it was an excuse.
The age is challenging but she is doing well.
I am feeling detached. I do treat H politely and that is about it.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Well, H ate dinner with us again. Again, I was kind of casual and said "Oh, do you want some too??" First he said no, then he ate 2 plates of spaghetti and drank half my container of orange juice!
He has gradually been hanging out longer and longer. Used to be 20 minutes, now it is more like an hour.
But he is glued to the TV during that time and doesn't even interact that much w/D2.
Seems tired and says he is not feeling well.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
What they say isn't always what they mean. They're trying to see if you are changing and if the changes will stick. The divorce, or threat of divorce, might be his only leverage to take him seriously about things that have been bothering him in the marriage. Do the 180 thing. Act differently in areas he wouldn't expect, but would be glad to see. Try not to resist his detachment, he'll resent you for it and blame you. If you step out of the target area (don't resist) he can't be angry with you and will have to start looking at himself. I'm not saying this will work, but this is the gist of the process. At least that's how Jodi described it to me during the phone coaching. I have been being less critical to H (his main complaint of me) since he left 8 weeks ago. Our interaction is much softer now. Almost friendly. Today said he feels more rational and less emotional about his decision-making (I presume about her?). He said he wasn't ready to say anything more and I didn't fight it. Just said OK. I have to force myself not to pry too much about OW.
Me 41 H 47 D9 S3 M 16 yrs WAH Sep 07 PA Aug 07 12/07 Admitted A 1/08 C 1/15 H needs me 5/7/08 came home 7/08 We moved to MD 10/08 M bad again 11/24/08 fled to GA(OW),filed D 12/8/08 Back in MD 12/23/08 I countered 12/29/08 path back?
Woops, I posted on wrong page. My comments were meant for someone else. Sorry
Me 41 H 47 D9 S3 M 16 yrs WAH Sep 07 PA Aug 07 12/07 Admitted A 1/08 C 1/15 H needs me 5/7/08 came home 7/08 We moved to MD 10/08 M bad again 11/24/08 fled to GA(OW),filed D 12/8/08 Back in MD 12/23/08 I countered 12/29/08 path back?
