Hurray! looks like your issues there might be solved by one of the classic, "affair partner spouse finally finds out and puts a stop to it" path.
JD's husband already made her switch gyms. xh was her personal trainer. When he first started training her, I even warned him that she was looking for an exit affair. Ha.
I suspect either she really will finally leave, and their R won't be as much fun when they're not sneaking around and talking about her crazy husband; or she'll chicken out, won't leave, and he'll force the end of the contact. Probably the first, though.
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sounds like he's really clueless about relationships. which we knew.
Well, yeah. Actually, that he's even thinking about it this much is much better than what he used to do. Old xh would have either:
1) Insisted they were really just friends, and the ILY's were "purely platonic".
This was xow, lol. He kept insisting that she was just the best friend he had ever had. I was dumb at the time, too...xh even told me that, and that they snuggled on the couch, and how platonic it was, and I bought it. Haha. How dumb were we back then?? (In fairness, I myself had an EA at the same time. Learned my lesson!)
2) Let it run away with him, and declared his undying love, yada yada yada.
I find it interesting that neither of these scenarios has happened. To me, it shows that he's at least trying to understand how long-term relationships are supposed to work.
Been meaning to pick up a copy of Shirley Glass's "Not Just Friends", anyway.
Actually, that he's even thinking about it this much is much better than what he used to do. Old xh would have either:
