I'm not a crier either, but I actually have cried in my wife's presence as a result of the intimacy issue. However, times I can remember have been during the sex argument, at which point she's usually so mad at me that I doubt she feels any sympathy. Crying at those times was probably due to the frustration that I feel when I can't seem to make her understand what I'm trying to say, combined with the fact that at a time when I'm hurting so bad she gets mad and becomes downright mean. That hurts a lot. However, I have laid in bed with tears rolling down my face just because I'm so lonely. Usually when that happens she's either asleep next to me (very soundly) or upstairs, having fallen asleep after reading stories to the girls. We take turns putting the girls to bed, and whenever it's her turn I pretty much know that she won't be in bed with me until 3 or 4 a.m. And of course she doesn't wake me up or cuddle up next to me when she finally does get in bed. I've kind of started to ramble here, but I'll make it a point not to hide my crying from her if it's genuine and might somehow convey how bad I'm hurting. Thanks again - I appreciate your suggestions.
