Sooner, Maybe we should look at this as you and I are more alike, rather than just using me for your wife's perspective. I was the mini-volcano, holding in my feelings because my H didn't seem to want to talk about some of the things I wanted to talk about. He thought things were more or less okay, with some inkling that things weren't just quite right but that it wasn't serious. I take responsibility for that. But I needed to get him to realize that there was an imbalance in our marriage. I'm not a crier, so when I cry my H knows it's serious. I don't use tears to manipulate, so when I can't stop them he knows it's important. If you ever feel like crying about the situation, have you ever let you W see that? I don't know how your wife handles your tears or if she has ever had a chance to experience them. There was one time when my H and I had tried to make love and my body was just, well, dry. We stopped and he rolled over to go to sleep. Maybe it was allergies, but he was sniffing in a way that made me think he was crying or trying not to. I really felt for him. Male tears can be powerful if they're not being used manipulatively. So if you feel like crying sometimes, maybe go ahead? Just a thought.
