I'm very sorry to hear about the problems with your husband and I wish you the best in working through them. It sounds like you've made great progress in dealing with some of your issues and I think that your husband will eventually see the changes in you and give the marriage another chance. I'm the high-desire partner in my marriage so I'm essentially experiencing what your husband has been through. My thread "sex-starved and looking for advice" gives plenty of details if you're interested. Since you, like MPT, have experienced the lack of intimacy issue from my wife's point of view, any advice that you could give me would be much appreciated. The question that comes to mind at the moment is this: what could your husband have done differently, before he eventually quit persuing you, to persuade you to rekindle the romance in your marriage, or at least to try?
