Down and out...need hope.

[Heimlich]

T,

I've been pushing off and on for a few months. It don't work. Bite your tongue off if you have to, but no more R talks.

Make it a goal to go with a R talk today. Reset that goal tomorrow and the next day and the next. Your W isn't totally gone, don't gobble up the space she needs to come back to you (there's an example in DR that illustrates what you're doing and how badly it turned out for the guy pursuing).

Also, in your email to your W, you mentioned you were making changes for "us". No. Make changes for you because you want to. You're becoming the person you want to be, not the person you think your W wants.

BD