Anyway. Apparently, her husband is going to go to the cell provider, and get the records to see who she calls/texts. Obviously, xh's number is going to come up a lot. xh agreed that this was something the husband had every right to do. (Another big positive...he never would have seen this before.) He also agreed that her husband would be right in identifying the problem.
Hurray! looks like your issues there might be solved by one of the classic, "affair partner spouse finally finds out and puts a stop to it" path. Let's hope so I think your relationship will go immeasurably smoother if that happens.
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So, xh finally explained it to me in a way I understand. He's said repeatedly that even he "doesn't know what it is." He also has told me that "yes, there are feelings". Well, he elaborated that, he's not sure what those feelings are. ...In that, he's unsure if it's just the whole allure of the affair fantasy, if it's because they have these personal conversations about her situation, or if it really could be early relationship feelings.
sigh...
sounds like he's really clueless about relationships. which we knew.
I'd say, Yes its because they have those conversations.. AND Yes, they are early relationship feelings!
Maybe he could benefit by reading up on one of the various relationship books, that points out that emotional intimacy, comes from personal intimate sharing, which becomes a self-sustaining cycle, deepening that intimacy until it eventually becomes a "lover" relationship.
Hurray for beer! it seems to make you quite coherent, actually
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
