I know that people discourage doing status checks, but it has been some time (month and a half) since I have checked in with my H about where he is at R-wise. I am pretty sure that I should just go with the signs and not get caught up in hearing the words, but it would be nice to hear that he has decided that he is committed to making this work (when we started to emerge from crisis mode in early October, he said that he truly wanted to work on the marriage; is this the same as what I want to hear in different words???). I don't expect to hear ILY at this stage (having been a victim of the ILYBINILWY talk), so I think that I would only be disappointed to ask about that.
