I started an email exchange with another member off the board, and there is no way of telling you how much she has helped me just keep my mind on track, and see things in a way that otherwise I most likely would not have. I think that it must have been obvious since my W has been far more loving and receptive in the past few days. I know that she has re arranged her mind and thoughts to justify the affair and she has to untangle that mess all in due time. I also know that she has a hard time saying that things are getting better since that would be in a way admitting defeat and that all the reasons she used to justify the affair were not there.
If you have a chance to make an email friend in a way, I strongly encourage it. Only us can understand what we are going through in a way so being on the same page truly helps and it is more regular than a weekly or bi weekly visit to a shrink. It also gave me a stronger footing to stand on my own which would have taken me a long long time by myself.
So thanks Limbo and wishing that some of my good vibes rub each and everyone of you.
More to come, weekend started early so cracked a beer,
