Hi Sandi, hey havn't heard from you in a while, and I hope everything is ok. I have a major question to ask you. I know that you had said that your grown D was living with you at the time you were contacting OM and she found out what you were doing. I need to know how to answer my D as she has been asking questions lately as to why is mom acting this way, and whats wrong with mom. I am tired of lying and covering for my W, and I have been trying to shield my D and S from what is going on. They are both in college and know that something is wrong, and i am sure they will find out sooner or later. But what do I tell them? My W started making excuses as to not coming home for dinner on several nights this week, and she has been hanging out with her parents alot. They have said that they are supporting her 100%. My W has been letting notes on the tv in the kitchen saying she wont be home until late, and my D has really been wondering whats going on . Up until now i have just said that mom doesnt know what she wants and is struggling with the divorce. I am thinking at this point that the only way that my W will understand what she is doing is for something major to happen. Our pastor at church has been asking why sometimes we dont go to church together, and i am tired of lying to him. I am struggling with telling them the truth, or continue to say that she has a problem. Thanks for your help.
