Down and out...need hope.

[DownNotOut...yet]

Sorry to hear about these latest developments. Welcome to the WAW waffle, the yo-yo, the roller coaster. Re-read my post from 11/05. You probably got a year of this crap to look forward to.

I think Rob and a few others hit it on the head. You got an inch and took a mile. Sounds like you started to see progress and went crazy with expectations, pursuing and pressure.

You can look at it as you have 6 weeks to turbo DB. Strange thing is, she might come home from work tonight and be in love with you again. She is "following her feelings". Those can change with the stop lights.

Either way, you WERE making progress by backing off and making changes. STOP telling her about the changes you are making. Enough with talking the talk; walk the walk. Knock it off with the back rubs. She made it clear, she doesn't want intimate "pressure". Stop questioning her. From an outsiders perspective, it seems like you know what to do and are able to do it sometimes but you can't seem to keep yourself from pressuring, confronting and making it about what you want.

She doesn't trust the changes...but she sees the changes. She is watching. I think you were almost there but set yourself back with pressure etc... Stop doing what doesn't work for cryin' out loud. Do what does work. You were getting it done. Get back to it. It is far from over.

Don't do anything flaky at Thanksgiving. Cool and pleasant. You are thankful for this time to be with the ones you love...then shut up! Don't be seduced by the dark side.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but it is only because I want you to stay married. Good luck brother. I'm pulling for you.