Can only post quickly--yes, S does go to a group at school on Wed with the guidance C. I don't think it was bad that H was there; he does need to hear what is really going on with the kids, since it is another area of denial for him. However, it will not be every time--she wants to see S alone so he is not as guarded. She did explain to both that the kids have their right to privacy, which she cannot break.
S knows that he isn't responsible--he is suffering the same loss-of-control feeling as I have had! It is scary to see how pervasive the ACOA disease is--the alcoholism reached right through 2 generations to affect him. I am very glad that he is going to be dealing with it sooner rather than later.
His father is still involved with the kids to a heavy extent, and I am glad for it. They will have to work out how to manage the logistics of this new dynamic, so its not a bad thing for H & S to have some sessions. I hope that S is able to get that anger out
D had more of the abandonment issues, but she is still so concrete--lots of reassurance during her acting out, and she doesn't seem so scared anymore (We'll see if that lasts).
