I feel like I am in total limbo land. She's planning on going through the holidays for the kids sake and then busting this up big time. Its just so hard to hear her say she's following her feelings, when a week ago she wanted to give 100% and 3 months to working it out. It was a two day trial and she says she did it because she felt guilty that I was trying so hard. I am amazed that she thinks whatever changes I have made are not 'me' and they have changed 'who I am'. I told her they have changed 'how' I am and that I am the same person, just making adjustments on some habits.