Making the Move

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had to share this. H and I have been going to MC regularly now for a while. We had each been going to IC one week, then MC the next. Switched it about a month or so ago to MC every week to improve our communication with each other and to tune into each others needs.

At MC last night we were asked to rate our M. 10 being the highest (it is great, wouldn't change a thing) to 1 being the lowest (not getting what I need/want).

I responded a 7 because I am still struggling with the work/life balance thing when I see that H puts more time into the kids schedules, hockey, etc.. than he does into us. I am sure that I do too. It is hard when we both have jobs and trying to run the kids all around. I know this was a big part of the downfall of our M and I want to remedy that yet H is okay with it. Not sure if that is a valid assesment. He is aware of it but he understands that the kids require so much attention and it is a time sink. Where I would love to do more with H, go out, even just sit and talk.

H respond with a 9. both the MC and I were floored. H then goes onto say that there must be so many couples out there struggling with the same issues we had, yet we made it. Largely in part by going to MC.

MC went onto say that for us, awareness will be key. That it would be easy to fall back into the same rut that we got ourselves into. My H doesn't think that M/R should be work, they just just 'be'. He, however, agreed with MC. I don't think he realizes it but he is working on this M. In his own way, but he is.

I recently went back and read some of my posts from last year. What a difference a year makes. I know that if H and I hadn't made it that I would have been fine. I am capable of taking care of myself and my kids. And I continue to work on me. And in turn that has positive benefits for my H and my kids.