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[cat03]

you're feeling like he's withdrawn, and it's bothering you. He can tell that something's bothering you and he withdrawls more.
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you are right PS, so much of what you said is what goes on, my H avoids confrontation and rather not say anything, and we both feed from each other's neg. as you said; it's a cycle hard to break but I must work on this.

I would much rather be D than live with what I had been living with the past two years
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I totally agree, I dont' want to be in the same sitch, thinking all is right while H is eating his grief, feeling like I have to be the life of the party in my M so that H is content and stays with me... don't want any of that, and, in a way, I now see what H means by not sleeping w/me while things are not right... we could fall into complacency and unconsciusly make ourselves believe it's all ok now. It sure is hard not sleeping with him, but I can understand how through physical sep. he is stopping himself from going back to the sitch of earlier this year, of putting up a facade for me.

Whatever you are having PS, I want a double :), thanks for your support, it means a whole lot and you've made me understand things I wouldn't have otherwise))))))