H came home last night. He walked in the door. I greeted him with a big hug and a kiss. He joked that I was giving him a kiss and running out the door for girls night.
Anyway, I went to girls night and bought some fabulous jeans and a cool ring. Came home at 10:30 and H was in bed. I crawled into bed and we snuggled for a bit... caught up on the night, then went to bed. In the middle of hte night, S4 came in (as usual). So this morning when I woke up, I crawled in the other side of the bed with him and we laid there for about 20 min or so. Then he had to get up for work.
For now, things feel pretty good. Slow and steady.
As I go through this process, I am learning the things that are helping:
- Show desire for sex (a big need for H) - Don't probe too much on stuff - Don't snoop or act suspicious -- show him that I trust him - Don't act in a judgemental way - Take space from each other, but also take time to spend together - If sometign is bothering me, gently broach it with H in a non-accusatory way and nip it in the bud right away. - Show desire for sex (yes, I bookended with this one becuase it jsut makes such a difference to H)
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
