Dropping the line vs. differentiation

[MJontheMend]

I don't see Edith but the mafia wife thing I can see.

LOL- Well, one thing that maybe doesn't come across about my personality on this BB is that in real life I am the kind of person who other people tease all the time because I'm in such an absent-minded fog or babbling about some dorky theory so often and my reaction to being teased is sort of a slow-reaction flustered good-humored embarrassment which the "teasers" find quite hilarious and encouraging of further teasing. My children, my younger sisters, most of my good friends and BFs current and past have done this so I am reconciled to it as long as it isn't mean-spirited. Also, I recognize that it is a method others use to get my "attention" which is always in short supply. GP teases me by staring at me and making over-the-top comments about my physical appearance ( the man actually said something like "You are prettier than a basket full of speckled puppies" to me the other day)and my only defense is to become physically affectionate (if I kiss him he can't stare at me or continue to say such embarrassing things) so I am frequently "flustered and affectionate" in his presence which makes me like Edith Bunker.

However, I don't always fall to "bunny" around him. I was at the vitamin store with him and he was joking around with this other guy in his 50s who was working there about all the natural versions of Viagra and Extenz etc. they were displaying for sale and implying "I don't need that stuff." which I found semi-annoying so as we were exiting I said to the other guy "Yeah, he just gets by on dating significantly younger women." GP just shook his head and said "That's cold, baby. That's cold."

What is about me (or you) that seems to inspire that loyalty and what is it that causes us to be loyal to our detriment?

That is an excellent question and one that I have been asking myself lately. It kind of goes along with my odd theory that my "problem" might be less that I am strongly HD but that I am strongly HD and strongly monogamous. It made me feel quite anxious when I was dating more than one man at the same time even though I wasn't being sexual with any of them. Also, I was reflecting on the fact that I have never ended a relationship with a man/boy with whom I have had sex except for seriously serious reasons. Pretty much if I am your girlfriend you have to do a series of things like cheat on me with another girl and then laugh at me when I ask you not to rip the branches off the baby trees on the playground in order to get me to finally turn cold.