I, too, can sympathize with the ML issue. I feel that I initiate more now, but he did initiate the first two times that we ML'd after the "crisis." Now, I initiate or I give hints, and he is agreeable. I have considered holding back to see if he will initiate again without prompting (although, to be clear, he does not need a lot of prompting:), but it does not seem worth it to step back from the intimacy strides we are making.
My advice would be to continue, especially if your sexual connection was good before. The physical intimacy is connected to the emotional intimacy, and I think that maintaining those connections is key. Perhaps sex initiation is like the "ILY" in the piecing process, a late entry after the small positives of the early piecing process (more experienced DBers could speak to this point).
In any case, sex is good for PMA. I make an effort to be sexy and appealing, and it is not just for sex and not just for H, but it also makes me feel tremendous.
