Donna--finding herself #20, sans H

[mkultra]

Geez Donna, that is intense session. Why does your H have to even be there? My D6's TH said that my H could go to one session one his own with D6 ponly after ten sessions with just us. It would not be as safe if H was there since he is the one who is basically causing the abandonement issues, so why is your H still welcome?? That does not make sense to me. Is H just being punished? H is not going to change or learn from his mistakes. That just irks me. Your poor son. He needs to get the message that Mom is in control and Mom will start new family traditions sans H!!! My heart really breaks for him. On Oprah, the Kennedy Moms said the greatest gift we can give our children is to show them how Mothers have a love for life. It's true. More important than hygeine or manners I think.

I also had some weird feng shui wealth come into my life after rearranging my bedroom and closet. I met two women in our neighborhood cafe who were both divorced and happily remarried. How does that even come up in convo because I hide it in public? It is like I have a red D mark on my head because these two women inspired me that I can be happy with someone else someday. That is nice because they were both older. It is like Reece Witherspoon said when she had her panic attacka bout feelinghumiliated because her H cheated on her so publically and they had kids. She looked out at all the cars in the lot and did the math. 40% have been through a divorce in their family and maybe 50% have been through and affair in their families. So she knew she was not a freak.

Again, I am so sorry about your son but he needs to know that Daddy may not be coming back ever and if he does he is not responsible either way. He is not alone so maybe he needs group therapy with other kids. I am no expert. I just have a friend who is a divorce counselor for kids in Kids Turn.