You've missed the point again, I think.

you've told her basically, "We're not getting married, until you give me more frequent sex".

With a statement like that, there is a high likelyhood that [IF she values marriage to you for other reasons], that she will give you sex... UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED.
Then it's right back to her old ways.

The biggest problem isnt sex. Obviously, that is A big problem.
But the far bigger problem, is that she doesnt care when you have an issue with something, that she doesnt consider important.

Even if you "fix" the sex problem... whether temporarily, or permenantly.. you will have a lousy marriage to such a woman.

If someone truely, unselfishly loves you... they will do just about anything for you that isnt detrimental to your relationship.

She doesnt love you like that. If she did, she would have already been ready and willing to look for ways to "help" you.


You cant "fix" that.
That's something that is entirely in her hands, and no amount of pressure from your side, can change that.

It's possible for someone to change like that for the better. I did. but it took me many years. I wouldnt hold your breath waiting for your fiancee to change.

You're not married. The reason to fight so hard in marriage, is that you have made a commitment to be with that person "for the rest of your lives".

You're not married to her. You havent made a commitment to her.
Go find someone who's better deserving of such a commitment.

Yes, you're "in love" with this woman.

No, that doesnt mean it's a good idea to marry her.


Last edited by Dom R; 11/16/07 06:19 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle