I agree with part of what MMF wrote but I must say that at least on this MLC board we need a good mix of LBS and their different perspectives.
Here's where I am coming from, take it for what it's worth.
I have been separated 13 months now, I have had a fairly vicious MLCer to deal with as well. I have sole custody of my kids and I managed to retain my house. My STBXW is about to give birth to OM baby and I have been in a R with someone for around 5 months. I feel like I've been there and done that.
Within a week of my beginning my R I posted a "goodbye" thread because I didn't think it would be appropriate to continue posting while I was still married and in an R. That being said I still lurked several times a day and emailed some, the point is that I care very much what happens to a lot of people on this board. Every once in awhile I will throw out my 2 cents if I am really compelled. I often wonder if this is the right thing to do, you see I can't show hope of a restored M in my sitch but I can show others that life indeed does go on and this will not kill you.
I think it's healthy to have both sides represented here provided it is done in a tasteful manner. I have been really disappointed in some of the infighting going on here as of late and extremely disappointed in a very few who seem to think it is good to post TMI about their personal lives. This is the only thing that turns me off about this board, sure some of us move on to a new R but good god the rest of us don't want to hear the intimate details of that R.
I hope this thread can clear the air and we all can get back to supporting one another.
PS. MMF you show a lot of courage by starting this thread, I hope one day your W will awaken and see you as the courageous man you are.
