Have a great night. If you have not yet, ya got to get the NMMNG book. It helps with the going dark kind of. What you have is a "behavior" problem with your W. Like a dog if ya give the dog a treat when he pisses on the carpet, the dog will keep pissing on the carpet. If you react to your W negative "behavior" she will keep "pissing on the carpet". Ok maybe that was a poor analogy.
In the book there is a story about this guy whose wife always came home in a bad mood. He didn’t like his wife in a bad mood so he would always try to "fix her problem" he would ask her what is wrong and then for the next 2 hours his wife would complain about her work. So every night this would happen. He kept on reinforcing this bad behavior by trying to fix her problem. So one night when his wife came home he went dark. He ate his dinner in silence and then went out to his garage. He gave her space; he did not try to fix her. The next morning his wife was still in a silent and withdrawn mood. He did try some small talk with her but she would only give one word answers. (BTDT). But that evening when his W came home she was in a good mood. She asked her husband if he wanted to go for a walk. She told him how she had resolved the problems from the precious day. He told her that he felt uncomfortable that he did not try to help her the night before. She responded saying she did not want him to try to fix her problems and that she liked it better that he had given her some space to work them out on her own. I have given up tryig to fix my W problems I have given her space. I don't let her bad moods bring me down I "go out in the garage" After a while her mood changes and I avoided the hurricane.
Of course if your W asks to talk that is another issue.
Keep it up big guy. You are doing fine
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
