Yeah... she brought one of the horses into the M. The other one we bred to get.
I promised her I would never ask her to give up her horses. I'm a man of my word and I haven't yet.
She's decided to sell the oldest and keep the youngest. Not sure when.. should be soon though.
Hilarious.. she called and told me that she borrowed money from her mother. She's bummed because she's out of her wellbutrin and can't afford to refill.
But wait.. she gets paid tomorrow... I mean Direct Deposit into the account tomorrow.
That's why she'll have money problems.. forrest for the trees.
Ok your W is way beyond messed up... Wth does she care what your doing? esepcially since she's the one having the A!! no more small talk!! Just about the kids thats it, she needs to feel what its like to be treated the way you've been treated.
Im not trying to be mean, but enough is enough.. She's really messing with you. Reeling you in and then sending an email like that.
Be strong!
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
You go out and have a good time bro, I'll take your firewatch.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Have a great night. If you have not yet, ya got to get the NMMNG book. It helps with the going dark kind of. What you have is a "behavior" problem with your W. Like a dog if ya give the dog a treat when he pisses on the carpet, the dog will keep pissing on the carpet. If you react to your W negative "behavior" she will keep "pissing on the carpet". Ok maybe that was a poor analogy.
In the book there is a story about this guy whose wife always came home in a bad mood. He didn’t like his wife in a bad mood so he would always try to "fix her problem" he would ask her what is wrong and then for the next 2 hours his wife would complain about her work. So every night this would happen. He kept on reinforcing this bad behavior by trying to fix her problem. So one night when his wife came home he went dark. He ate his dinner in silence and then went out to his garage. He gave her space; he did not try to fix her. The next morning his wife was still in a silent and withdrawn mood. He did try some small talk with her but she would only give one word answers. (BTDT). But that evening when his W came home she was in a good mood. She asked her husband if he wanted to go for a walk. She told him how she had resolved the problems from the precious day. He told her that he felt uncomfortable that he did not try to help her the night before. She responded saying she did not want him to try to fix her problems and that she liked it better that he had given her some space to work them out on her own. I have given up tryig to fix my W problems I have given her space. I don't let her bad moods bring me down I "go out in the garage" After a while her mood changes and I avoided the hurricane.
Of course if your W asks to talk that is another issue.
Keep it up big guy. You are doing fine
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Thanks all again for the advice. I definitely want to get the NMMNG book. It would be nice to have regardless.
W called after she got off.. I was busy, so I let it roll. No VM, so I didn't call back.
Called D's at 6 and her friend handed the phone straight to the D's.. had a good convo with them.
Went out with my friend last night.. cool lady. Haven't seen her in 3-4 years. She still looks the same. She's separated and getting ready to divorce. It was nice to talk to someone in person about these things.
Anyway.. it's Friday and it's my weekend with the D's!! Well.. except W has to take D5 to a "Families in Transition" class this evening and tomorrow..
