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[Rob1231]

mmf,

I appreciate your taking the time to post this. Unfortunately, while I understand your thinking, I just can't agree with your post - not taken to the extreme that you have written it. You appear to believe that the people here are obligated to stand for their marriages forever, except in the case of a few specific exceptions. That's a very black-and-white interpretation of the world (and of Michelle's books). I believe the world has many more shades of gray than this.

There are many people still posting on this board who did stand for their marriages for a very, very long time - but one person can't save a relationship if their spouse is never going to come around. Michelle clearly states this.

For those people, who suffered and endured for so long, who supported and encouraged others here, who saved themselves even when they could not save their marriages - what would you have them do when the time eventually comes to move on? I consider many of those people to be very good friends, and I will always honor them for fighting the good fight regardless of the outcome.

I believe that "Getting A Life" and having a Positive Mental Attitude are the real goals of Divorce Busting - not meerly tools whose sole purpose is to save a marriage. And by that standard, some of the people here who have wound up divorced and "moved on" are shining examples of success in my eyes.

I will not stop standing by these friends, or caring about them, as they journey through their lives after their divorce. The road ahead of them is still rocky and hard, and not the one they desired. If they find new people to care for them - people who can value them as their former spouses could not - that is something to be celebrated, not shunned. And this board where we met and learned to care for each other is the perfect place to do that.

Respectfully,
Rob