At some point though, no matter how hard we may try and pray for the restoration of our marriage we need to rise up out of the ashes and start moving on with our lives.
I do not use the words "move on" or :moving on." I use the wpords move forward. Why? because we should always be moving forward with our lives no matter what state in which we find ourselves.
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My problem is that I do not want to believe that I am in a state of mourning. Mourning in my mind happens when there is a "death" or "loss". If there is a death or loss then there is no hope for restoration. And as of yet I am not able to give up the hope that my family will be able to be restored.
First, Nutcase, your old marriage is dead. That does not mean you have to renege on your vows. Obviously, the old marriage led you here. So mourn the old marriage because any marriage that would be restored cannot be the old marriage. It has to be a new one. As for giving up hope, you still have a family. It is just a different form. I have been divorced for 6 1/2 years yet we (ex, sons and me) are still a family.
With everything you said, it would seem you are not letting go of the past. You have to let go of the past because there is no going back to the wat it was.
