new here. Feel like dying

[Dom R]

If this is the #1 problem between the two of you... then I'd say it is crucially important for you to find out WHY he has this expectation.

For example, if he expects it because, "thats how the bible says a marriage should be"... then there are definate responses you can make to that.

[the exact response, depends on just how much he's actually read of it (sounds like not much), and what he thinks the bible calls HIM to do, in addition to what it says a wife should do]

He said that I make poor choices, and bad decisions. I honestly don't know what he's referring to (marrying him? \:\) )

well, how about you ask him what he means? some specific examples of that?