Maybe she doesn't understand the seriousness of it yet. Maybe she never will.
Some people finally "get" the seriousness of the problem when the other person bails... if that happens, if you call off the marriage, and she FINALLY sees the light, then by all means give it another go BUT DO NOT GET MARRIED.
Some people STILL don't get it, even when the partner bails.
The only way to find out which she is is to... well, you know.
