NikkiB #22 (almost separated)

[NikB]

Hey everyone - quick minute to post an update.

Thanks for your responses!

jak
haha I LOVE that, tell him I was trying to read his mind.

I do think it's a good idea not to tell him until I'm actually moving. Thanks for that (and ST for your thoughts as well!).

Yep, we both have a lot to work through before we reconcile again if/when that happens. Not going to rush ANYTHING this time. Including my own thought process - I need some time to really think objectively about what's best for me. Well, as objectively as is possible in these sitches.

ST
Thanks for the ideas! I like it with one small tweak - as OT suggested in the past, make it about me rather than him. So say I needed the space... rather than knowing he needed it. Yeah I don't really expect any major angry reaction or anything. Confusion, depression maybe, happiness maybe, who knows.. but don't think it will be anything tough to wait out, whatever it may be.

I actually think bellydancing is LESS embarassing in a lot of ways. I'm way less self-conscious in a room full of women than in a paired off type dance class. Although if your H would go with you, a couples class would be great!! At least if I'm doing the steps all wrong I'm only messing myself up.. . I really do enjoy it and it's not TOO embarassing (the only part that cracks me up every time is the "glut squeeze" - we literally are sitting on the floor and pull our butt muscles out and behind us, then alternate flexing the top/side glut muscles.. I know we look ridiculous, but at least we ALL look ridiculous together.. ).

Interesting about your H and the way things went. I honestly don't think I could even consider reconciling again WITHOUT him saying something and verbally recommitting, but it's hard to say. Even if it happens that's down the road, so not worrying about it for now.

Yep.. zero expectations, that's for sure. Learned my lesson on that one!