Well, she's going to be mad at you for both ... for snooping and for finding out her secret. She won't be happy at getting busted. But are her secrets fair to you?
I was pretty sure my H was having an A a month before I found out for sure. But the way I found out made me wish I had not sat on the info. I had seen his credit card statements with hotel room charges but waited another month so I could track his overnight trips, and get another statement.
But then he had a motorcycle accident with OW one weekend, before I could do that. I have wished a million times that I had said something before that day.
It doesn't matter if you do it now or wait, it's not going to make the task any easier. But think about yourself here. She's going to off on this weekend and enjoy herself and you will be miserable. I would confront her.
If you're hoping to R, then it may be harder if she goes off on this weekend and has a wonderful time with this man. And that may make your sitch, and her entanglement, even more complicated.
Perhaps it's just because of what I've been through. My H lied to me for over a year. I just hate to see anyone go through that any longer than they have to ... or at all.
