When and if I do ask him what his address is, if for some reason he just hasn't thought it important to tell me, should I reveal the sorts of thoughts I've been having to try and understand why he hasn't told me? (eg living with the new girlie, worried about me coming around unannounced etc).
On the flip side, would it be more justified to tell him what sort of thoughts are going through my head if he refuses to tell me where he is living?
Or should I just ask a simple question - "Please may I have your address."
He'll ask "why"
I'll say "because I think it is reasonable to know where my husband is living, particularly for when d6 is staying with you"
I think he'll say "what's the problem?"
then it'll start degenerating. My paranoia about why he isn't telling me will start to come out and he will feel attacked. He will defend and counter and distract me from the issue which I think is that he is hiding yet more stuff from me and also using this as a method of control/manipulation so he can have 'one over on me'.
