h is trying to get out of bed earlier as the season is begining...instead of pushing h out of bed when the alarm went off at the wee hour...I pulled him back in for another cuddle...he draped the blankets over me and then cuddled me...this infuritated me the the point where I said...forget it...h I think understood and then came under the covers too.
h then picked on me (in a loving way) about it and told me to put my "i have issues" t-shirt on.
I didn't think til now that perhaps the blanket was so that he wouldn't get to comfortable and therefore not get out of bed!!
maybe when the alarm goes off instead of looking for another cuddle I should just jump him!!!
Quoting lostlove: I think LL needs to start listening for something other than what she wants to hear!!!
By concentrating so much attention attention on trying to see & hear what we want, we miss most of the sights & sounds around us. Once we realize that, its like seeing the world for the first time and wonder how we could have missed in the first place?
It the a great time of year to start take time to smell the flowers, listen to the birds, watch for the ways our spouses say ILY.
LL, Hell yeah, jump him every chance you get. This post is GREAT! It is for real!!!!!
I couldn't wait to tell you this: a fellow racer heard about my sit and sent me the following e-mail. This guy has no idea I've tried DB'ing, anything about this board or anything about all of us nut cases here. Check this out:
Quote: Tony,
You said the right things and did the right things when you met your wife. You were successful, you know how to do it. Do it again! If she will not listen to you today, show her you are serious and tomorrow, she might give you another chance. Reconciliation is not something that happens overnight. You might need to work at it for weeks or a month or two. Don't give up, if you really feel the way you seem to feel. Something kept you two together for 30 years, you remind her of what that something is, show her you have changed, and she will be back.
really?? then why do I think everyone just thinks I'm that pain in the butt that says it like it is???
so I had a c appointment today....to say I left upset would be minimizing things....
h went 3 weeks ago and some of the things he had said then though I knew them didn't rest well with me.
h having had these feelings for ow...doesn't know if he can have them again..
well eventually I talked to h about it...he was very comforting...and didn't recall saying it that way...
h came home because he was missing something...I guess I want him to realize the feelings tied to ow were typical of an a and not that SHE was something special...maybe he does and that's why he's home but I'm searching for words from him instead of actions...and the words that he has said (the neg ones) keep circling like hawks.
h said he will not come out and say things...he is being subtle and not so subtle (the phone, the clothes brought home from the apartment) and things will just fall into place.
we have an appointment to go together to c in a few weeks...
I let h know that I'd like to hear him say ily once in a while...but also let him know that it might make me cry but it's not a bad cry...
h let me know why he's keeping the other customers and ow...a public relations type thing...I understand...h is hoping that ow will sell and that he'll only have to deal with her for part of the year...if that doesn't happen then he will address it then (seems he wants her to go away too) h said he will let the guys take care of that street and if there is something he HAS to be there for he will do what he needs to do and go to the next house asap...he has no intentions of talking with her...also reminded me that he is very capable of going about business...it would then be the pressure she would put on him..wonder if she has when he has been there to plow..she does after all think he's in love with her.
so anyway....I'm glad that I called h after the c appointment (I didn't at first I called friends to talk to but no one was around...he is who I should have talked to but was reluctant because it sometimes gets me in the wrong direction)
At least there seems to be more assurances that H does NOT want or intend to continue the "friendship" with OW. Sounds like he's setting things up to assure that, that's GOOD.
And TonyP, pretty amazing advice from your pal! Guess this approach has some deeper wisdom to it, huh?
Quoting lostlove:really?? then why do I think everyone just thinks I'm that pain in the butt that says it like it is???
Surely, you don't mean that!! Your "say it like it is" style is quite valued here. If you doubt me, all you have to do it reread your thread to see how many have come here seeking your advise.
You are incrediable, because the journey you have decided to take is a very painful one for you and despite temptations to turn away, you continue to keep staying the course that is steadily bringing the two of you closer together. You have had much to overcome and you are proving it can be done and that is an inspiration to us all.
I have been away from the bb and you have 102 new posts since - I will have to catch up another day. In the meantime, WHO SAYS YOU ARE A PAIN IN THE BUTT??? Lemme at 'em, I'll give them a karate kick pain in the butt! I think you are wonderful! You have said so many sensitive and touching things to me, but aren't afraid to call it like it is, which is also very helpful.
Sorry I couldn't stick around to catch up. Not feeling great, so I'm calling it a night.
1) When the O happens, a chemical is release to put hubby to sleep and you WIDE awake. Sort of a mini-heat for women because nature designed women to have mulptle partners for genetic diversity till modern society made this taboo, because of disease.
2) Guys like in the morning and women at night, I can vouch for this, I was sat/sun morn and she was any night, what is hubby, do you remember you wanting to be close in the eveing and him not being interested...my guess you are a morning person, and he is night.
3) we did it spontaneous a few times in the middle of the day, but I ended up with a ache, in the nether region. So I prefer when we had plenty of time to recoup. ie. sat.sun morn.
4) After numereous sex talk go arounds, about being the initiater
What we agreed is the person who wanted sex would have their underwear off in bed. So when I came to bed and see underwear on the floor, quick trip to bathroom to brush teeth and splash cologne on. She wore a nightgown so kids never could tell. As a rule I did not have to take my off to let her know becuase she wanted it everyday. This worked okay.
One interesting thing she mention, when we were dating, and necking, no sex I would get the proverbial blue ba&$s, she admitted that she got the same ache. Its hard to believe we were close friends once, ugh!!
Please stop by my thread. I'm so glad things are going your way. And they are.
Poe Pad: Meredith Viera on the View once stated that she always slept with her underware off. In case her H needed her. It was easier for him. So I laughed but thought hey why not? My h is a night owl. So I would always be asleep. Well I remember when he came in the first time and realised he would'nt have to wrestle with underware. He sweetly kissed my face and whispered thanks! He did want he needed to do with me and off to sleep he went. He didn't have to bother with foreplay. It's a sweet memory. It happened way before I WAW smirk:
Anyway just had to comment. Hope you don't mind LL
Kip
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advantage over those who can't"
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You are incrediable DBer! 
Your "say it like it is" style is quite valued here. If you doubt me, all you have to do it reread your thread to see how many have come here seeking your advise. 