Quoting lostlove:really?? then why do I think everyone just thinks I'm that pain in the butt that says it like it is???
Surely, you don't mean that!! Your "say it like it is" style is quite valued here. If you doubt me, all you have to do it reread your thread to see how many have come here seeking your advise.
You are incrediable, because the journey you have decided to take is a very painful one for you and despite temptations to turn away, you continue to keep staying the course that is steadily bringing the two of you closer together. You have had much to overcome and you are proving it can be done and that is an inspiration to us all.
Your "say it like it is" style is quite valued here. If you doubt me, all you have to do it reread your thread to see how many have come here seeking your advise. 
