So is everyone saying to me that if two people don't start out sexually compatable, it can't be improved upon? I want it, she doesn't, and thats that?
Is this REALLY all you hear us saying?
Take the cotton out of your ears.
The books, the therapy, the workshops, and this BB, for that matter are for couples who want to improve their relationship: BOTH PEOPLE IN THE COUPLE.
Do you hear that: both people have to want the R to improve. BOTH people have to want a solution.
Sexual incompatibility is starting out with three strikes against you, BUT if both people are willing to work on the issues, then I would say there is a whisper of hope.
But that's not what you've got here. You've got a fiancee who doesn't see what the big deal is, or if she sees, then doesn't care to do anything about it. Is SHE worrying that you're unhappy? Is she reading books, talking to people, looking for ways that you can both be happy and satisfied?
It's not the sexual incompatibility that's the MAIN problem, although it is huge problem... it's the fact that you're the only one in this R who seems to think there is a problem.
THAT's the message we're giving.
Sexual incompatibility is a huge obstacle to overcome, but if only ONE person sees it as a problem, then it CANNOT be overcome.
