Alright, I'm listening to you all, its hard when you are in love though, you don't see things clearly. So is everyone saying to me that if two people don't start out sexually compatable, it can't be improved upon? I want it, she doesn't, and thats that? The therapy/books is pointless, she won't change at all? So the goal would be to start over, and find someone that wants it as much as I do or near to it. To answer a few questions: We are both 25, and she gets along very well with my friends. She doesn't have any friends up here really and her family is in another state, so that is hard on her.