I need to rehearse ways of asking him that don't reveal:
-that I think he is doing this as a way to control me -that I think this is turning into some sort of sick competition -that I feel it's unfair that he has full access to our house and I don't even know where his is -that he's doing this to hurt me as he should surely know I would want to know where he lives -that he thinks I'm going to stalk him -that he is living with new girlie or at the very least doesn't want me rocking up unexpectedly to his place when his new girl is there and creating a scene. (Hey I could go to his workplace if I wanted to do that!)
I feel a bit guilty that the reasons I want to know are not just confined to knowing where our daughter is when she is with him (he will likely counter this with, "don't you trust me?"). I feel a bit childish about wanting to know. I have done my own 180 on this and not asked him about it about three weeks - I thought I could hold out and he would tell me in his own time. And he still might do that, but can I hold out for another fortnight (which is when dd is supposed to be with him again) without asking and if he still hasn't told me by then I'm worried I'll erupt into 'demanding to know' mode.
