I haven't given an update lately, mostly because things keep changing everyday. My H was a radical MLCer. He hooked up with a fatal attraction OW (much younger) about three years ago. I predicted on this board two years ago that H might never get rid of her, no matter how bad things got (and they got pretty bad).
To make a long story short, our D was final in September. Up until that day, I hadn't heard from H for months. Since that day, it has been non-stop contact, mostly about how miserable he is and how much he missed me and the kids. He said the OW still wouldn't leave his house, but I thought it was just another lame excuse to keep from coming home.
About 6 weeks ago, he called one night on the road to tell me he would be kicking OW out of his house. He said he didn't trust her. I don't know what happened that night, but she didn't (wouldn't) leave. I was not surprised.
H called last week to tell me that we "weren't done yet" but that I would starting seeing action from him instead of just words.
Last night he called to tell me the Sheriff's Department just evicted OW. Three deputies carried her kicking and screaming out of H's house. The deputies asked H if he wanted to press charges because H was covered with scratches and bruises. He told them no, just to get her out of his house.
Hindsight, I think the affair ended some time ago. It played itself out while they were still living together. I think H would have ended the affair a long time ago if she would have left. Her suicide threats wore out, her guilt trips on H wore out, and he finally saw her for what she was.
He asked me out for lunch on Friday.
FWTW, H and I aren't officially D'd yet. We haven't signed the papers and the judge hasn't signed yet. Whether or not we sign the papers, H is probably right that we "aren't done yet".
