I'm going to tell you something from personal experience from the OTHER side of the fence (your fiance's side). I rec'd an email from my H telling me he didn't know how much longer he could 'live like this,' wasn't happy, etc., etc. I took it seriously to an extent, but never imagined that D was an option (or not even getting married in your case). I may have changed for awhile, but not long.
Until you make it perfectly clear that you are absolutely serious about this, she is not going to have any reason to change. From your posts, I don't take you seriously (and I don't mean that in a mean way), however, I cannot imagine she does.
The fact that she would not even have sex w/ you after you talked to her about it speaks VOLUMES!!!! (I at least went home & had S w/ him at lunch time after I got his email!!!)
I understand you love her, but unless you want to live this way for the rest of your life, you need to get out of the relationship prior to marriage. It does not sound to me like she has any desire to change and, she may love you very much, but like everyone else keeps saying you 2 are just not compatible.
Last edited by RedHeadWife; 11/15/0709:11 PM.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
