I JUST heard from my MIL yesterday, she sent me an email. And it was one of the nicest things that has happened to me since this all began. They are still your "parents" regardless of what is happening between you and her. That's the way I look at it. My MIL was like my second mom, and I did tell her without mentioning all the details that I did not want the divorce because I love her son very much. (Because he had told them "WE" wanted a divorce, which was untrue). Maybe not good DB but I was not trying to get her to talk to him about this, just needed her to know my side. I also told her how much I loved her and FIL and that I knew they would always be there for me. That was all I said. I wouldn't suggest mentioning anything about the R, but I say send the card. What is happening to you and her, is not happening to them, they are just observers. Showing your true caring side, will SHOW her what a really great person you really are. That's my db take.
Ok, so that wasn't so quick, but you provoked some good thoughts.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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