It is very hard and confusing. I come here alot to ask if I am doing the right thing. Eventually it will start to be more natural, this detaching and all. I would say you are doing a great job at detaching. We are in the same house and that is really difficult, so I try to practice some of the techniques before LRTing when in the same room as H.
It's hard to say about the presents too. Maybe just the one would be a thoughtful idea, but if she refuses it I guess, don't take it too hard, be prepared. Maybe save the other ones for if you two get to be on much better terms...Just my thoughts.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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