an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[Dom R]

He keeps saying things like "She has to see it; I made it through."

WHOA.. that is really really worrying.
That sounds like an affair partner, who has "done his part of the deal", and is now waiting for her to follow through with her part of it.

I saw a music folder on his computer titled "JD and [xh's name]". Come on. That's so high school, it's kind of funny. When I mentioned it, he just got so genuinely confused looking, and said I was making something of nothing. I'm pretty good at telling when he's intentionally lying to me, even if I don't know what or why. And he didn't think he was here. He just didn't see it.

last few sentances of that didnt quite make sense to me, but...
this sounds very very bad.

you may have to deal with the issue that part of him wants to be with you.. and part of him wants to be with her... and when she's free, that "other part" may actually go right out the door and be with her, unless he decides to give her up before then.

hope I'm wrong.

On the other, more buried level, he must know something. Why else would he get uncomfortable when I try to (gently) poke holes in his reasoning? Why else would he clam up so much about it? (Other than his whole insane thing about being contradicted.) And why bother to hide other things? I do think part of it is fear of confrontation, but there seems to be more.

this, suggests that I am right, however.