Hard to function after the divorce...

[Dom R]

Well, if you read the books it tells you everywhere that you need to move on with your life. That is what I have tried to do.

what book. divorcebusting????

It says to "get a life", not "ditch your wife, and go dating".
Two very different things.
Other books do claim that's a good thing to do. But not divorcebusting.
And even the other books say you should do it basically to make your wife jealous. I dont think that was your intent at all with her.

The only reason I contacted this woman was to see if there was a reason that all of this happened.

Any good counsellor would probably call "bull" on that one.

I think that what you really mean by "if there was a reason", was, "was there 'true love' there, that somehow justifies you ditching your wife and marriage for that woman?"

First off.. there's no such thing as "one true love". that's hollywood crap. and even if it was, it doesnt justify breaking up a marriage. Marriage isnt, "until death, or until I feel more romantic about someone else".

Secondly... you've found your answer now. It wasnt all worth it. You're now "with her", but still thinking about your wife.



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I'll ask again:

Why are you here?

if you want to "get over your wife", then this is not the place to do it.

if you're wondering, "should I try to reconcile with my wife?"...

then maybe you should start a new thread in this forum, asking that question.



If you're wondering, "I can't get her out of my head; I want to know HOW I might reconcile with my wife"... then dump your affair partner, and then ask the "how" questions.

'cause the #1 step in "how", would be "quit screwing another woman".


For people who actually want help recovering their marriage, I am actually quite sympathetic, and believe it or not, can actually be helpful

For people who want to somehow feel better about messing up their marriage (and continuing to walk away from it), I have no sympathy.