Yes! I am completely committed (or maybe I should be committed) to maintaining the 180's I have been doing. It is so much more gratifying to get a communication from her when I don't expect it rather than send her something and worry myself sick over whether or not she will respond!
This really is helpful having this place to come to share thoughts. I appreciate the responses very much!
Thanks! I am nervous but I think prepared. BTW I got rid of mens health and brought DB to my office... I figureed if I was concerned enough about over doing to ask then I probably was over doing it.
Good idea. Wouldn't it be funny is she was here as well -- seeing the situation in a different way? I am sure she is not, but I heard that Pina Colada song on the radio last night... And no, I am not harboring a secret fantasy that she is trying to save the marriage :-)
Is this bad...the last time kids visited W said she felt guilty. I"m sure in part beacuse the airplane trip is hard on D7 S5 S3. I find myself hoping just a bit that they are not quite on their best behavior on the trip to reinforce that...
Survivied the visits in not too bad of shape. Shared a few laughs and a limited amount of conversation. No ILY's, miss you's or R talk either from me either. She wore the shirt I gave her to sleep in which surprised me. She also took a shower and left the door open. I did not come into the room, but before I moved out she always made sure to shut the door. She also finished getting dressed in front of me. No nudity but it was odd.
When she left she texted me a few times on drive back to airport which was out of character.
I did backslide a bit and texted her after I got home and asked her to see a movie with me. She said she is not interested at this point in having a date. I said OK, and she then said that we have a lot of time together coming up. She has not had the best evening and it is not the best time to ask stuff like that. I replied that I understand.
I think that the OM relationship maybe has cooled just a bit, and I imagine that might be some of her problem. There are really no free weekends for her for the rest of the year and I imagine he is jealous of our time together.
Any comment on this. She said that she has not worked out in a month, and she was working out all the time. She said she does not have the time, but I don't think that is really the case.
Next up is a 3 day visit for Thanksgiving. I really want to keep the baby steps going and want to move past the backslide. Any advice how to handle that?
