You mentioned earlier that you're "just a kid" How old are you? (too lazy to scroll up to page 1 ).
I'm not sure I agree totally with TonyP. Sure you may have some residual feelings about ff/ow in the years to come, but, in my opinion they will FADE!
My first love and I were together for 10 years!! Sometimes now I can't even picture his face. I ran into him at a grocery store last year and we chatted. No huge surge of emotion, just curiosity, and a gentle caring. Felt bad that his marriage was in trouble, but somewhat snide too since he'd married the OW he left me for!
But take her for example. I really despised her at first. Had nightmares about her etc. Now she's not even a BLIP on my emotional radar. Funny thing, though, seems I'm a huge sore spot on hers!
Maybe we have more choice in these matters than we're led to believe.
LL I think C is the perfect place to share some of your concerns.
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since he'd married the OW he left me for! 
