Quote: when your h says his feelings for exow are irrelevant i disagree. and it is not the answer your looking for. it must be very frustrating for you that h won't just give up her nbusiness and the apt. too bad there isn't another solution that h would feel comfortable with. why doesn't exow just get another landscaper? why doesn't her h or she do it? maybe with her upcoming D she won't be able to afford it.
she will not get a new landscaper...I had asked h to stop servicing her last year before he left but he didn't...I even called her and told her to find a new landscaper...she tried to fire him (supposedly) but it didn't happe.
perhaps h is waiting for her to not afford his services..and I'd assume that someone contemplating or hell going forward with a d especially with a woman who doesn't work (well she does some daycare in home) such a luxury as a landscaper would not be affordable...perhaps just a spring cleanup to make the place look nice for the tentative sale...that way h gets to be the nice guy...and she can just move away...
I don't know...right now I'm trying to just ignore that whole issue.
there are more important things for me to deal with than whether or not sussie cancer pants is still a customer or not.
I suppose what h means in saying his feelings for her are irrelevant is that despite whatever feelings he may have or had for her he is now home with me and at least somewhat actively working at making things better here.
re- the apartment...during our last tif I brought up the apartment and he then said "well I've been thinking of getting rid of it" coulda told me that!!!!
this crap is all so hard to deal with...h just wants me to relax....tells me I'm comming apart at the seems (he did after all have to come get me cause I couldn't drive home due to an anxiety attack..he feared I would pass out and honestly I probably would have)take it one day at a time...is what he can say...
I just wish h would let me in a bit more...
when I tell him what makes me feel better...ie telling me about his day...
his reply is...well I'm not always going to do that..
my reply....I was just letting you know something that makes me feel better.
